I recently explained why I will not pay for my son's education in full. I received some great comments, and I felt I had enough to say to warrant another post on the topic.
I by no means am saying that every child who gets a free-ride to college will screw it up like I did. I have known some students who excelled and didn't have to pay a dime for their education. And just so everyone knows, I had great parents. After all, I did well in high school. They did something right.
I've reflected back on my life often, and tried to decide what made me lose it when I went to college. I feel a big part of it was that I didn't want it enough and I didn't have to work for it.
I didn't mention it in the other post, but I had NO CLUE what I wanted to do with my life when I was 18. I applied to three different colleges and for each one a different major (criminal justice, music and mechanical engineering - if that isn't a smorgasboard of majors - tell me what is! - LOL). The decided factor was whatever college gave me the best financial package and that's where I would go and what degree I would pursue. I hope my son has more drive than I did 11 years ago.
There also was a great comment from someone who didn't have any help at all, but had the desire to go to college. It adds another view to the story worth reading about.
In the end, as parents we just have to do what we feel is right for our child. And I think one of the most important things to do is to support them in what they do. When you at least have a cheering section behind you - that can make a big difference as I sort of mentioned with my answer on whether I have support from my family.